Expert: Sam E - 8/15/2007

Question
Hi Sam. I read through your answers and thought ... 'this guy knows his stuff'.. so here I go.  I am writing for a good friend that i've known for years.  He has been married to a woman for about 13 years now who has never shown him that much interest.  It wasn't that she was mean, just showed affection by walking past him and holding her hand out.. anyway, no sex for years.. or at the best very very minimal.  She has some health problems that she used as an excuse.. but she had the energy to get a boob job and exercise like a maniac.. I think she has some sort of eating disorder..Back to story.. well about 2 years ago, she said she wasn't in love with him any longer; hadn't been for years and wanted a divorce.  She said she wasn't attracted to him at all.  He begged for her to stay and said he would try harder!  The poor dude was suicidal.  He also found some email to some guy she worked with hinting that she wanted to hook up while they were on a trip.  Fast forward 6 months ago. He found out that she was on some dating website.. he checked when she didn't come home until late one night.  Then she said, I wanted a divorce years ago!  Caught again!  So, they filed for divorce.  he was devastated again!  Weirdly still into her. Obscessed! She always needed help with the kids so she could do her thing.. they have 2 children. She just didn't seem able to cope at all with her new career and the kids.. Well to make a long story short, He went out of town on business and when he returned, she said she wanted to stay together and he said they talked.  So, they're BACK together.  He's happy for now, but I'm worried.  Do you still say, if they cheat twice, they will surely do it again??  Is that a solid notion? What's your take

Answer
I think that cheating gets easier every time its done and I am sure that he will find himself in the same bad situation he just got out of.
She made it clear she was not attracted to him and wanted to leave. To suddenly not feel that way is pretty hard to believe. I am sure that whatever she does to him next will be kept very quite and I am sure there will be a next time.
Sam