Expert: Sam E - 8/1/2007

Question
Ive been in a very abusive relationship for about six months now. We had been together as a couple since we were both 14 years old, we are not 18 and 19 years old. Over the past 6 months she has cheated on me and i have forgiven her due to the circumstances. Things were starting to get better then one day everything just took a turn downward. She quit trying, quit showin her love for me, came over less, just completely gave up on us. Due to her very difficult life i have been dragging this out for the past 3 or 4 months while sinking into depression, unable to move most of the time. Keep in mind the past few months we have not had the title of a couple but still acted as if we did with constant 'i miss you's and i love you's. I found out last night she has gotten a boyfriend. My question is this...

Im done with being hurt, im done with forgiving and waiting on her to claim all that ive offered her. Im done. But she has been with me as far back as i possibly care to remember. Because of that she has become like oxygen, water, to me. I need help on leaving her completely, because its something i cant do. Please help me, i need to get out of this relationship. Please help. Thank you.

Answer
She obviously has no respect for you or the relationship, so move on.  She doesn't want you anymore so why hang on?You don't need her to be a alive. In fact, she is killing you slowly. Take a look at yourself. No self-esteem left, no self-worth. Your whole life is wrapped up in her and she doesn't even like you anymore. It's time to move on. Find the love and support you need with friends and family. Let her go. Be strong. Try and find the man you were before she destroyed you. He's still there! He's there and he's going to be even better once you kick her to the curb! Stop allowing yourself to be hurt by her.
Someday the right girl will enter your life and you will know what true love is. The longer you spend wasting time on this girl, is time you can never have back.
Work on your self-esteem. Go the gym, go back to school, write book, whatever will make you feel good again. It wont happen overnight, but in time, it will happen! As long as you stay away from the person that is harming you, you can and will heal!
Hope thus helps,
Sam