Expert: RITA - 11/4/2004

Question
This one is a bit of a difficult one for me.  I have been dating this girl for some time now, about a couple of months.  I love her with everything, and she is the first girl I have told that I love her before we went to bed, so to speak.  In fact, we haven't done such a thing out of a matter of inconvience.  I also have a strong porn addiction.  I make it perfectly clear that I am an avid fan of materials of an adult matter to this girl.  She isn't quite keen on it, but I think she understands.  I just haven't told her how stong this addiction is.  I'll just leave it at very strong.  Here is my big problem.  I just had a wonderful visit with her, yet on my way home, I couldn't help but think all about one of my favorite erotica texts.  And then once I got home and noticed that my roommate had left for work, I promptly went to the computer and started searching out porn.  Even though we haven't had sex, I feel totatly satisfyed with my girlfriend.  I just want to know if my suitation will ruin things with her.  Or do I need to get help?  I guess that's why I am here.  Your input please?

Sam Watson.

Answer
Hmmm. Ill try to help you with this one, if I can.
Depending on how addicted you think you are, I would ask you if it is so addictive that it is interfering with other aspects of your life...i.e. work, socially, are you doing nothing but looking at porn on your free time, are you acting out fantasies with others, ect. If this is not the case, I would say you are in the class of "normal" in that most men your age and older like to look at porn.
I think if you answer these questions yourself, you might see that you aren't at all "addictive", instead, just being a man.
Hope this helps