Expert: Kat - 3/15/2003

Question
My fiancee and I are having an etremely hard time right now.  I had a VERY shady past... I slept around a lot right before I met him.  But as soon as I saw him... I knew that there would be something there...and I was right!  But now he THINKS I am cheating on him... but I'm NOT... I love him very very much... and I don't know why he doesn't see that I love him too much to hurt him.  He means the world to me... and I want this to work out... now we have a baby on the way... but if I'm not with him, he thinks I'm with someone else.  I love him with all my heart, and both of us jus want to be happy.  What can we do?

Answer
Hi Candy
For the sake of your baby, you guys must try and work this out. I can see why he would be insecure, but if you have never cheated on him then he should try and put your past behind him and give you credit for being honest about your past. yes you cheated on other guys. But you are clearly crazy about him  and the fact you have never cheated on him  and have mended your ways says you are ready to settle down.
Do you express in words to him how much you care for him as you did this well to me?? Do little things to show your care, like leave little notes for him around the house, send him sweet messages on his phone. G0 out for a romantic meal together and just let him know how much you are looking forward to your life with him and your child and agree to put the past behind you.
Good luck,
Kat