Expert: Bruce D. Frank - 10/17/2007

Question
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. He's a great guy and we have a wonderful relationship. I found out about 2 months that he cheated on me with some girl he met at a club they were seeing each other for only about a month. Now I decided to try and work things out with him because I love him and I see us having a future together but its impossible to forget. How are we supposed to get past this and countinue the wonderful relationship we once had?

Answer
You absolutely can have a happy and wonderful relationship with your man.  You will never forget, but you can forgive and feel OK.  It is, however, a two way street.  Meaning, he does have to show you that he will never do these things again.  The thing that you truly need is time.  Time will give you the opportunity to distance your mind from the awful events that hurt you so profoundly.  It sounds like you two do love each other and will work things out.  But you have to remember, if you see signs of infidelity you can not ignore them.  If you do see something, you should talk to him immediately.