Expert: Ini Obong - 5/13/2005

Question
hi i'm 20 yrs old and my boyfriend is 25 yrs old. i'm a student and we been together for two years and 2 months. my question is if a man ask you over and over can he do anal sex with you and all of a suddenly he don't ask no more does it mean he's getting from someone else?

Answer
Hi,

We have to look at the issue from two angles. Does he care more about himself or about you. It is possible that he loves you so much and doesn not  want to cause you the pain. Alternatively he probably feels you are denying him what he desires and as such he feels justified to get it outside.

But looking at a broader picture, clarissa, i think you need to pay attention to some other issues apart from this guy for now. He has not really discovered what he wants, he is still eperimenting and you guys are held together by lust. So get rid of him.

Pay more attention to your studies, go to church and make a success out of your life. Then you would not be so overly emotionally dependent on this guy. think well on this.

Wish you all the best and pls contact if i could help further.