Expert: Sam E - 12/6/2006

Question
hi there,
i have a question.ive been with my bf for more the 3 years and we've met online.we had a pretty good relationship and lately we've been arguing a lot becasue he moved and i wanted us to live together and have future.anyhow so what happened: he sees me 2-3 time a week and now its been less and less.i thought that something is going on and i went on his email and i found of something bad.1 it was a ecard from another girl .please look at it and tell me what you think.
http://www.hallmark.com/ECardWeb/ECV.jsp?a=5071372122594M149575309Y&product_id=
and then i saw that hes been sending her good pictures of himself just like he used to do it with me.i am so crashed.i feel so sad and disappointed,i know i dont have direct reason to think that way but my gut is telling me that theres something bad.let me know what you think!
Thank you so much

Answer
I think he is cheating. I think you know this but just needed someone to verify it.
A woman’s instinct is rarely wrong in these cases . Sometimes we pick up on subtle things  that signal danger but we may not even know why. The card and the fact that he is spending less time with you are  pretty obvious signs!
What really has me convinced is the fact that he didn’t move in with you, but moved away. He was not willing to make a commitment to you.
That card alone is a direct reason to believe he is not being honest with you, it is just hard to face.
I suggest you let him know that you know he is cheating. Ask if he is wanting to end it.
I suggest you do this via email. Most people faced in this situation will most likely be honest if they are not having to have a face to face conversion.  
In this email tell him that you are giving him the opportunity to be honest and do the right thing. Tell him that you have a right to knowing and that he can’t have both worlds. He has to make a decision.  
I know this is hard but is is better to find out now and move on.
If he is and you need someone to talk to, write me back anytime!
Sam