Expert: Bruce D. Frank - 11/24/2007

Question
how do i catch my wife in the act. we arent together but says she is still my woman and kiss me passionately when i see her,.but something aint right.

Answer
It is a little difficult to catch someone that you are not with; however it can be done.  You have to watch what she does.  Really pay attention.  For example, if she does something differently when kissing or having sex with you, then you need to ask, "where did you get that from?"  Don't ask in a confrontational way... ask as if whatever she did was amazing and you liked it.  If she gets uncomfortable, then you may be on to something.  In other words, when a person is lying, they are usually unable to answer simple questions that are easy to answer.  You should also look for obvious signs.  Does she turn off her cell phone when she is around you?  Does she disappear more than often?  Does she give you long explanations about what was going on or where she was when you ask questions?  Does she explode with anger when you ask simple questions?  These and more are some of the more obvious signs.  Finally, you must listen to your feelings and emotions.  When something is wrong, they are your most obvious gauge.  People do lie about affairs, but they can not cover all tracks.  When people lie they still send signals that there is a problem.  You will see them all, but you can not ignore them.  Good Luck.