Expert: Don - 12/27/2007

Question
ok, last night i got really drunk while out clubbing with my best friend her boyfriend and his friend. James-partner- went to the pub with his father and told me he would ring me when he got home. This was fine.-but he never rang, so as i got more drunk i got more angry .. sending him abusive text messages asking why he didnt ring, or answer his phone. I have been extreamly paranoid that i will be cheated on, since my dad left my mum for another women, i knew, but my mum didnt have a clue. Anyways the clubs shut and we all decided to go to andrews-friends boyfriend- along came the other man.-ryan- one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I woke up this morning thinking, what the hell have i done. My partner isn't answering his phone today and i feel unbelievably guilty..
Should i tell him and risk ruining the relationship. or not say anything and hope it just goes away. I don't know why i done it.. i love him to peices and dont want to loose such an incredable man. Please help.
anything is appreciated.

Kate
xxx

Answer
Tell him and apologize over and over again. If you don't tell him the guilt will eat you alive and have you so worried that he'll find out that it'll drive you crazy and have a negative effect on your relationship anyway. So you might as well explain to him what happened and let him found out from you instead of somebody else. After you tell him just cry your eyes out and apologize and hope he can understand.