Expert: Bruce D. Frank - 10/22/2007

Question
hello,
i am only 16 years old but i have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years and 8 months now. i have always been faithful to her, i have never been a flirty person and i cant be around another girl without thinking of my girlfriend. We have both taken each others virginity and that meant so much to me.

she recently slept with another guy two times now, she even told him they where gonig out, mind that he knew she had a boyfriend as well. she told him that it was over and that they were no longer going to "go out" or "sleep" together but she also told him they can be buddies. i told her that i wont stand her being friends with him and she tells me that she didnt only hurt me but she also hurt him and that it wouldnt be fair for her to not talk to him.she has also told me that she loves me but likes him and that she would rather be with me because im faithful and show that i will always be there for her.

my question is can i trust her not to cheat on me again and what can i tell her about her being friends with him? and is it worth being with her?

i have already told her it hurts me but she keeps telling me that she just cant stop talking to him because she hurt his feeling as well.

Answer
If you believe that you are in love with her and that she loves you then it is possible for things to work out.  But, it sounds like she does have feelings for the other guy.  It is possible that your relationship with her has run it's course.  Meaning, she may be trying to move on.  You two are very young, so it is very possible that this thing may be over.  I know this type of thing hurts tremendously, but over time you will be OK.  That is, of course if things do not work out.  Good luck.