Expert: CTO - 1/26/2007

Question
My girlfriend admitted to me that she made-out with some guy at bar. We were in a serious relationship that was going really well. She said she got really drunk... but didn't really feel like that was a good excuse. Neither do I. Although she felt horrible... and was crying about it for hours... she never really tried to fix things. I haven't spoken to her in a few days and I still feel i need an explanation. She has made no attempt at reconciliation... and this was in fact a serious good relationship. What should I do... I really want to tell what I think of her... but at the same time I miss her. I'm also in disbelief that she hasn't called. Should I just let this go... or should I seek closure? I run the risk of being made to feel like a double idiot.

Answer
Hmm it is weird that she hasn't called you yet, but still she seems very upset. If this was the first mistake in the relationship, just let it go. WELL don't let it go! I mean forgive her, just watch her more often. A good relationship shouldn't be ruined because of one make out. Things could have been worse! She could have had sex. It was one drunken make out, no biggie.

I mean it's up to you, but you're asking my advice. She feels horrible. Im not sure WHY she's not trying to fix it.

I say forgive her, and get back together. One drunken makeout is not the worst. It's bad sure, but it's not the 4th time this has happened. And she admitted to you! even better you didn't find out through spying, or a friend.

Hope this helps