Expert: Sam E - 12/6/2006

Question
Ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 yrs. We've lived together for 2yrs. He moved out 7 months ago, because his brother died. After he became very religious and didn't want to live with me anymore, intill we got married. He bought a house behind my back and moved his mother and sister in. {we were just going to buy a house } A month later he breaks up with me because he can no longer date a girl that is not a Jehovah Witness.  4 months later we decide to get back together. 1 month after that I find out that he made-out with one of my friends last year twice, and once when i was on vacation this year before he moved out of the house. He claims he has changed and now with his religion goals and his fear of God he could never do that again and it was a mistake. He came and talked to my mother and is showing deep regret. We were to be married in June 2007 and now i just have no clue what to do. He has changed. DID he screw up to many time to be forgiven?

Answer
I think he is worth another chance. He has changed and seems to be on a path towards godlyness. I think you should forgive him.
I suggest to sit down and have a very honest talk with him. Tell him to be 100% honest with you and ask him whatever you need to about the kissing.
Once he has answered you should tell him how you feel about it and are willing to forgive.
Than you can't bring it up again.
You see, once you forgive and start to heal if you start to talk about it again or get mad it only tears open the wounds. Each time you start to think about it, STOP! Don't allow yourself yo dwell on it.
Make sure that you are ready to forgive him before you say you will.
I don’t usually think that repeat  cheaters should have chances but this case is different because he has a made a life change! I think he is being honest and worth it!
Hope this helps,
Sam