Expert: Don - 12/26/2007

Question
My fiancee has been acting differently over the past few weeks.  She has been working long hours and regularly volunteers to work extra at her job ..(which she doesn't get paid for)  Most recently, I didn't see her in about a week.  I called her to hang out on Saturday night and she didn't answer her phone all night.  Then she came over on Sunday and slept all day.  in between napping she informed me of a work Christmas party that I was not invited to but the workers were free to bring there significant other.  She left my apartment to go home and wrap presents for Christmas.  I called her a few hours later and again, she didn't answer the phone.  A friend suggested that I drive past her house to see if she was actually home, so I did, and she wasn't.  I finally found her car at a local fire station/bar where the workers of her job frequent.  I called her again on her cell and she still insisted she was home wrapping presents.  I finally told her I knew she was at the bar and asked her to come outside.  I noticed that she was also not wearing her engagement ring.  She said that b/c of her job she had to take it off and forgot to put it back on.  We fought and broke up for about 12 hours then we got back together after she apologized.  I just need to know if she was cheating and what I should do???  HELP!

Answer
Sorry to tell you this but I do believe she was cheating on you and not only cheating but cheating with somebody she works with, this is why she didn't want you to come to the office holiday party, so that she wouldn't be busted. You need to find out if any new people have started working there, maybe one she could have had the affair with.

If she wasn't trying to hide something she wouldn't have lied to you about where she was and she wouldn't have had her engagement ring off around people she works with unless she was cheating with one of them.

You need to find out who the person is.