Expert: Sara - 2/2/2005

Question
How will I know if he is cheating. Before I knew him, he was playing the field evenso he was married. He is now separared and is going to divorce. He says he loves me but evenso he said I could go and live with him without getting married again(he is scared) he says he enjoys being alone in the house for the moment with his son. What must I think and what should I do?

Answer
Hi there! I'm going to have to ask you to write me again with a little more detail because I am a little confused about some of the things you are talking about. I'm not sure if you're saying you're going to live with him or not. You said he is ok with you living with him but then you say he enjoys living alone. Which one is it? I'm just trying to figure out why it is that you think he is cheating or if you're just wanting to prepare yourself incase the time ever comes to think he's cheating. I think however that you should just trust him until you have a feeling that you shouldn't. If you want some advice though on anything in particular then I suggest writing me back so I can have a little more details to work with. Right now I don't understand what it is that you want to know. I think you should just take it as it comes and just because of his situation right now, it doesn't mean you can't trust him. If you're really having problems then try talking to him about your feelings. Take care.
Sara.