Expert: Sam E - 4/7/2007

Question
OK, THIS MIGHT BE CRAZY. I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND, SHE IS VERY VERY VERY GORGEOUS MIGHT I ADD. SOMETIMES I WONDER Y SHE IS EVEN WITH ME, I MEAN I'M NOT SO BAD MYSELF, ITS JUST I HAVE SELF CONSCIENCE ISSUES WITHIN MYSELF THAT I HAVE TO GET OVER. ITS STRICKTLY ME THOUGH, EVERYONE ELSE THINKS I'M HOT! LOL....ANYWAYZ...ME AND MY GIRL WERE TALKING FOR ABOUT 10 MONTHS BE4 WE ACTUALLY SAT DOWN AND SAID, OK, KNOW WE CAN PUT "TITLES" ON THIS RELATIONSHIP; WHICH MEANS, WERE WERE A COUPLE FINALLY. IT WAS MOSTLY DUE TO THE FACT THAT SHE WAS ALRADY PREGNANT FROM ANOTHER GUY, (THE EX LOVE OF HER LIFE) THAT UP AND LEFT HER COLD AFTER FINDING OUT SHE WAS PREGNANT. ANYWAYZ, SHES GOTTEN OVER THAT, AND NOW WE TALK. WE ARE EXTREMELY IN LOVE BY THE WAY AND I LOVE THE BABY ALSO. WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER, BOTH WITH OUR PARENTS, SHE DOESNT WORK, BUT HER FAMILY IS WELL OFF, I WORK PART TIME, AND WE BOTH GO TO SCHOOL. SHE HAS A CAR, I DONT. RECENTLY SHES BEEN GETTING ALOT OF PASES LATELY WITH GUYS, EVEN OLD EX BOYFRIENDS. THEY JUST SO HAPPEN TO BE IN TOWN AND WANT TO SEE HER AND THE "BABY". SHE SWEARS SHES NOT A CHEATER AND WOULDNT DO IT AGAIN EVER, (CONSIDERING SHE HAS O OTHERS IN THE PAST,) BUT NOW SHE HAS A BABY..SO. SHES HAVING DREAMS OF OLD BOYFRIENDS AND EVERYTHING...EVEN INVOLVING SEX! AND SHE IS PRESENTLY IN CONTACT WITH AN EX THAT SHE BROKE UP WITH ONLY BECAUSE OF A JAIL TECHNICALITY......I THINK SHE IS CHEATING OR SOMETHINGG...OR WANTS TO.....WHAT CAN I OR SHOULD I DO?  

Answer
If her relationship with these exe’s are strictly as friends than let her be friends. Voice your opinion about it. Let her know it makes you uncomfortable because you fear she may cheat. Than let it be. Understand that no matter how much control, love or threats you give someone, if they want to cheat they will. Her love for you should keep her from cheating.  If she does, that tells you she really doesn’t love you and its best to move on. Now if they are not friends and you know there is more going on than I suggest you leave before you get hurt.
Hope this helps,
Sam