Expert: RITA - 8/22/2004

Question
My Girlfriend has just told me that this coming weekend she is going to a three day festival with her ex!
She has had the tickets for a while, I can assume, and has only just told me.
I asked if she wanted to go, but either she wasn't listening or didn't let on, as her reply was no she was working. She never asked if I wanted to go.

How do I handle this? What questions should I ask? What would you do?  

Answer
Well let me see, how do I say this? She didn't ask you and she will be with her ex for 3 days at a festival having fun....it's obvious that she doesn't want the relationship.So you might want to reconsider getting out of this now, before it continues and you get even more hurt by her...you deserve so much better.
Tell me how it goes.

p.s. an ex is an ex for a reason...and most people who end their relationships should just keep it that way, she might still have had feelings left over, and that's likely the reason she's doing this now. Don't be surprised if she returns and announces their "back together"...and if you look at this as a lesson, instead of a punishment, then you can learn from it. You sound like a nice person,so think of yourself first, always..and don't let people take your kindness for weakness.
take care and write back soon.