Expert: Sam E - 11/29/2006

Question
I have been dateing my girlfriend for about 1 year 6 months and she started to beg me to hang out with some friends and work i said no she said she would never do anything so i trusted her because that what she wanted so she went . and the next weekend and the next weekend i started to get  fishy about what was going on i read her phone and realized it said she was cuddling with another guy i flipped out and she said she kissed a guy and that it i belied her but i told her she could not talk to any those people ever again and then she went around my back talking to the guy and them and found out . she never went back up there but was still talking to them finally i talked to those people and they told me the truth and she finally told me what happened she went up there one time got a hotel her and her friend and two guys she got drunk fucked him sucked his dick . and the next day they fucked again . and went back up there again the next week and they  fucked and she jerked him off . and she said she had a crush on him . I was so depressed and appalled by this it is so disgusting and i cant eat and im living with the girl i broke up with her and she begged and cared back i don't know what to do i cant stop thinking about it and i don't think if i didn't find out she wouldn't of stop . she swears it will never happened again she wont hang out with anyone but me . and that it was a mistake . I've never really loved a girl so party of me is like fuck that bitch but my heart is telling me to give her another chance its been 3 days and things are going good other then the fact i bring it up all the time its the only thing  i can think about i trusted her so much i doubt i will ever trust her again what should i do . do you think it will ever work between us

Answer
I suggest you try to move on. We can love someone but this does not mean they are good for us. It is called a break up because it breaks two people apart and breaks the heart. It hurts ,but you can heal. She has proven to you over and over that she is not trustworthy nor does she respect you.
She cheated on you. Not just once (which could be called a mistake and easier to forgive). She did it, than went back and did it again.
You are going to be hurting for awhile but soon it will fade. If you stay, eventually she will break it again and you will be right back where you are now. The best thing to do is to end it now and deal with the pain. It does pass. Time does heal the wounded heart.  
You are young and have years of good times ahead of you!
let her go. Trust me you will thank yourself later.
In the meantime, hang out with friends, call an old crush. Don't dwell in it. That only makes things worse.
Hope this helps you!
Write me anytime!
sam