Expert: Sam E - 11/1/2007

Question
I have this problem.  As if the humiliation isn't enough.  My gf recently cheated on me with another (dare I call him a man?) guy.  I mistake I believe, and did believe.. until sometime after when I found pictured evidence of the relation.  Another gunshot to the heart.  I did not say anything this time, no anger was expressed on my end, I just drank in the pain.  Then I happened to find these exact pictures on her computer...  she declared that these were on there because she felt it was punishment and later I revealed the truth that she was actually going to send these pictures to him.  I am disgusted.  repulsed.  I am in love.  And the pain is almost too much to bare.  Where does it end? it is of recent that I started to look back on all the suspicious activity on her end that everything seems to convienent. Has she been lying to me all this time?  Should I trust her?  She says it was a one time thing.. my instinct tells me otherwise... I don't believe her..  and there might be a simple solution "leave her"  but I can't, I've been with her for so long and I know her heart is in a good place...  how do I continue to make it work when all the walls she help build come tumbling down on me???  please, I need an answer.

Answer
It’s time to move on. Anytime someone who is suppose to love you starts to bring you this much pain, it's time to hit the road. Your instincts are probably right and you will be hurt again if you allow it. You can leave. I know it's hard but she has made it clear that she has no respect for you.
As long as you stay, you will only be hurt. You want it to work and she does not. There is nothing you can do.  Walk away. Find support in friends and family. You will get over this. Trust me!! There is not a person  who has ever died of a broken heart. It gets better in time!     
Hope this helps,
Sam