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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Young Love Forever? | 4/15/2010 | Elise |
| Q: my name is Alex, and I'm 16 and my partner is 17. We've been "together" for about 7-8 months now. ... A: What I'm trying to say in a nice way... is it doesn't really matter. One day you'll look back and ... | ||
| Thoroughly confused, and not even sure where to start | 4/14/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I'm 35, married for about 15 years now. My wife was my first time, and so far my only one. We're ... A: If you are SURE this is the path you want to take, I can help. I'm here to answer questions right? ... | ||
| I'm about to cheat on my husband | 4/14/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I met a man who had 2 kids & a girlfriend, for this reason we could not commit to each other so we ... A: Wowzers. Well. The vagina wall is made to expand when penetrated, so unless you get a brutal beating ... | ||
| Young Love Forever? | 4/14/2010 | Elise |
| Q: my name is Alex, and I'm 16 and my partner is 17. We've been "together" for about 7-8 months now. ... A: I tend to decline younger questions like this because the comprehension simply isn't there. But you ... | ||
| Internet 'cheating' | 4/12/2010 | Elise |
| Q: When is internet cheating not cheating? I am still with my partner but last year found emails ... A: I honestly didn't catch a "red flag" until half way thru when you said he said "it's all in your ... | ||
| Need clarity | 4/10/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I am in a difficult situation but will try to keep my question short. I am a married woman with ... A: The address is a big one for sure. The rest could be just normal flirtation. Does he do that with ... | ||
| At an impasse | 4/9/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I’ve been with my partner now for 6 almost 7 years. I am 26 and he is 40. We’ve been through highs ... A: I'm sorry, this one is very hard, I try to see all the sides and offer different ideas but I can ... | ||
| Convinced me of an open relationship | 4/9/2010 | Elise |
| Q: Hey, I posted a couple of days ago about me being tempted to cheat - your feedback was extremely ... A: That's the hard part. Even for a well spoken and confident person on the subject... it is a hard ... | ||
| Need clarity | 4/8/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I am in a difficult situation but will try to keep my question short. I am a married woman with ... A: I love an open relationship! Congratulations for finding a man and being open to enjoying life to ... | ||
| Tempted to Cheat | 4/7/2010 | Elise |
| Q: Im 21 this june and my partner of two years 27. He has a two year old son who iv been around since ... A: Amy, The thing is, there is always going to be another guy if your accessible to it. Perhaps the ... | ||
| Curious and Confused | 4/2/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I'm married to a great guy that I deeply love very much. He makes me happy and we are a great ... A: You know, an open relationship is better than the "swinging" and the picking a date. It's less shock ... | ||
| Curious and Confused | 4/1/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I'm married to a great guy that I deeply love very much. He makes me happy and we are a great ... A: I've got to warn you. I get very very wordy on this subject. I'll keep it short. But it truly is, my ... | ||
| Ex-Boyfriend Cheating on His Gf with Me | 4/1/2010 | Elise |
| Q: My ex, Anthony and I, dated last year for about 4 months. It was a fast, intense, but still ... A: Well he's been catered to in some degree most his life, I doubt his parents, he sounds like he had a ... | ||
| Ex-Boyfriend Cheating on His Gf with Me | 3/31/2010 | Elise |
| Q: My ex, Anthony and I, dated last year for about 4 months. It was a fast, intense, but still ... A: Yep. Thats a doozie. You know it too. I'm going to start at the basics with this one. A body loves ... | ||
| to cheat or not.. | 3/31/2010 | Elise |
| Q: . I am in a serious relationship for three years now, and I love my partner dearly. I am 21 and he ... A: Firstly, just to get this aside. You cant really waste your "youth". There is a period between 27 ... | ||
| how do i know if he's serious? | 3/25/2010 | Elise |
| Q: Ok, I probably have a really weird relationship, but my husband wants me to be with another man. ... A: My Answer must have not sent! I apologize. As you said, you two have a weird relationship. I say ... | ||
| I slept with my ex who has been dating another for 7months! | 3/23/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I still have feelings for my ex. I broke up with her 9 months ago. I also started to date others. We ... A: Things are eventually going to sour. If not in months than in a year or so. She will foolishly admit ... | ||
| Sexy Back. | 3/22/2010 | Elise |
| Q: Ok so i have been in a really commited relationship for about 2 years. Well lately i have gotten ... A: Well... if your in a committed relationship thats kind of part of the commitment. It's not really ... | ||
| I do not kow my place in this situation | 3/18/2010 | Elise |
| Q: This is a really long story so I wish you luck in following it. Last summer I started dating my ... A: Firstly, this is a good thing to remember for the future. I'm not sure how that dynamic happens but ... | ||
| I cheated on my girl | 3/11/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months, I recently started a new job about 3 months ago and met ... A: Hey Lex Don't take this wrong The more you date the more jaded you become The most common ... | ||
| My Problem | 3/5/2010 | Elise |
| Q: Basically my problem is that me and a girl like each other A LOT, but can't be together. We're ... A: Look, the truth isn't always hot. He's mean to her, he mentally abuses her, he's all these bad ... | ||
| I hate myself. Please help me. | 3/2/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I have a pregnant girlfriend. I'm not married to her, so there is no hang-up there. I met a girl ... A: Babe, you can't expect to ever have a real love until you love yourself. You aren't ready for love ... | ||
| cheating, lost, and a baby involved | 2/28/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I really need somebody's advise and soon, I am in emotional rollercoaster. I am with a guy for more ... A: America is very pro-family... Hell the whole world is very pro-family. But there comes a point when ... | ||
| cheating | 2/27/2010 | Elise |
| Q: My girlfriend recently went out on a night out on her own something she usually does. When she ... A: I'm no doctor and one of our experts in the womans health area might help give you more insight on ... | ||
| He won't touch me | 2/25/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I love my boyfriend. He's 18, and I'm 22. He makes me happier than anyone ever has. He's funny, ... A: Really, it's not a relationship if you never touch is it? Sure it's a form of relationship like a ... | ||
| Is my man cheating on me with his baby mama? | 2/18/2010 | Elise |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. And he has a baby mama that does ... A: Situations like this are hard on my end, it is hard sometimes to answer a question without hurting ... | ||
| She cheated twice and i'm still with her.. | 2/18/2010 | Elise |
| Q: please tell me what you think about this relation ship. Me and my Girlfriend (Christabel) been ... A: You know, I'm from America. I do my best to keep morals and religion out of my responses. But the ... | ||
| need help | 2/16/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I have a situation: I have been dating my current girlfriend for like 5 years off and on, the ... A: Ok, I'm trying to focus on your question here. Your friend... you see her a few times a month since ... | ||
| happy with boyfriend, but the sex isn't enough | 2/16/2010 | Elise |
| Q: First of all, I'm happy I found someone who can help me with my dilemma, to put it straightforward. ... A: Oh honey don't ask me that question! I would get an open relationship going or cheat. To me sex is ... | ||
| need help | 2/12/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I have a situation: I have been dating my current girlfriend for like 5 years off and on, the ... A: Hey hun, sorry for the wait... hope I can help a little. You've got a heavy one there. The thing ... | ||
| he cheated | 2/10/2010 | Elise |
| Q: Why is he so mean to me when he is the one that cheated and why is he the one making the decision if ... A: It has to do with power structure and perceived value. There is noooo nice way to put this. But know ... | ||
| HUsband cheated once after 10 years together | 2/9/2010 | Elise |
| Q: My husband cheated 1 year ago, it was in my house with a friend, at my birthday celebration that ... A: Honey, you can take all the time you need. For starters. He has no right to rush you to "try" or ... | ||
| long time boyfriend broke up through facebook | 2/5/2010 | Elise |
| Q: My name is DC, i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years. Since December 2009, ... A: First of all honey, sooooo sorry for the late reply. It has been quite a week! Please forgive me I ... | ||
| long time boyfriend broke up through facebook | 2/3/2010 | Elise |
| Q: My name is DC, i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years. Since December 2009, ... A: From what your telling me I believe you are right. It may have only started out that he flirts when ... | ||
| What Happened | 2/2/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I have been married for close to 10 years. I was always pretty good about being monogamous in all ... A: Honey, don't take this the wrong way... I mean this in the most fabulous way possible... who needs ... | ||
| Forgiveness and Trust Issues | 2/1/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I had been with my boyfriend for about a year, we jumped into things way too fast. Lived together ... A: Well you seem smart - a thinker. You know all the right words for the situation. Could that be part ... | ||
| Self Esteem | 1/23/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I'm 14 years old and I have a horribly low self esteem. No one can seem to help me. What can I do to ... A: Hey there babe! Self Esteem is a hard one! First of all your 14, I know the world lays out infront ... | ||
| The current state of your relationship/is it still working for you | 1/21/2010 | Elise |
| Q: The one who loves you and doesn't want to lose you yet he still messes around. I do believe I am ... A: Gina, THe goal of an open relationship isn't to make him jealous. But it does emotionally distance ... | ||
| why | 1/20/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I am 24 and met a guy a few years ago. I liked him right away but we are both married. My husband ... A: Dede, I would put my money on him and his wife having rocky points to begin with. He sounds like he ... | ||
| Suspession | 1/14/2010 | Elise |
| Q: I have been dateing my fiancee for a little over 3 years now. For the first few months it was ... A: sometimes people are shy and say too while afraid of saying too much. The thing is with suspicions, ... | ||
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Elise
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Expertise
I can answer questions ranging from why someone would cheat, how to get away with it, and most importantly in recognizing when your motives are not the correct ones. I can help with someone who is unsure with their feelings and recognize when someone should be talked out of doing something they will regret. When dealing with those who are hurt by a cheater in their life, I am sensitive to their condition and answer questions from "the other side of the fence" in a way that focuses on the importance of not taking it as personally as many do. I will also emphasize the importance of not emotionally abusing your partner while cheating, and how to appropriately accept the consequences and not hurt your partner further if caught. There is a big difference between emotional cheating and physical cheating and I am quick to point out when someone is taking advantage of their partner by cheating emotionally, versus someone who is not satisfied but still deeply loves their partner.
Experience
I am a woman who is a firm believer in open relationships and can justify against any argument with well thought out and accurate information backing my position. In rare occasions I have been in a relationship in which my mate did not support the lifestyle. I have resorted to cheating on at least 3 partners with frequency, and was never found to have done so. I believe that humans are not by nature monogamous, and find nothing wrong with multiple partners. I strongly encourage safe practices, and proper hygiene. I also believe strongly in accepting the consequences that cheating entails, and not hurting the person you are with.
Education/Credentials
Just some psychology classes in college, including sexuality in society.
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