Expert: Sam E - 10/30/2006

Question
Well hello i am 19  years old and i have a couple questions about my 22 year old boyfriend that i know who has been playing me and the problem is every time i try to leave him its like someone is holding me back he doesn't understand how much i love him and therefore he still go's out and cheats on me it just broke me heart when i saw them togeather i just played i off like i didn't see i just left

Answer
As long as you allow him to cheat he will. It is obvious that he does not care for you or have any respect for you, therefore, you need to find the strength to leave. He knows that you love him, but he does not love you. That is a hard thing to face, but in order to move on, you need to realize this.  He will not change and your pain makes no difference to him. So each time he cheats  and you cry and show him how bad he makes you feel, he doesn’t care. No matter what he may say, HE DOES NOT CARE! If he did it would not happen again and again. Why stay with a man who does not respect you? He also puts your life at risk. Think of the STD’s he could give you. There is no cure for AIDS and anyone can have it.  Trust me, the sooner you tell him bye bye the better. It will be painful but so is staying with him.  Once you have moved on, you will look back at this and wonder why you stayed so long. I was once where you are. I had no self esteem and I though that if I just kept trying he would come around. Needless to say he never did. Once I left him I got myself together and went back to school, made new friends and started to enjoy my life again. Soon I found true love and I look back now and wonder what in the world I was thinking. I even had a child with that man, but staying with him was not worth the pain. Walk away now. Start putting the focus on you and not him. Do things that will start to better your life and soon he will only be a bad memory. Playing the martyr is only hurting you. It will not make him change it will not make him feel bad, it will not make him love you. Love and respect yourself becuase he never will.
Hope this helps. Write me anytime!
Sam