Expert: Don - 7/16/2007

Question
QUESTION: i have been seeing a married man for 7mo he is in the army so his wife is in another state.i have fallen in love with him. i am pregnate with twins by him he don't want them and i have agreed to have abortion.i don't know if i love him because i am pregnant or if i truely do.i am so confused

ANSWER: First off you were wrong to begin an affair with a married man, you knew he was married and that your relationship had no future so you should have not gotten involved with him

Second don't have an abortion just because he tells you to have one, it's your body so it should be your choice. If you want the children you should keep them, but don't be shocked if he doesn't help you raise them, but the choice is your whether to keep them or not, not his.

Even though you were wrong to start having an affair with him to begin with that doesn't mean that you couldn't truly love him, if you want to know if it's real then ask yourself if your life is better or worse since he became apart of it. If things are worse then you don't love him because people you love make your life happier not sadder.

I hope this helped and good luck.

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QUESTION: I asked myself and i really do love him and i want him in my life. I  am going to keep the twins so do i raise the kids by myself and never let her find out? what should be my next step?

Answer
Chances are he's not going to leave his wife to be with you no matter what you do and it's going be hard for you to raise those kids alone.

If I were I would get in contact with his wife, so she'll know what kind of situation her husband is involved in. Tell her what happened between the two of you.

But you need to prepared to raise the kids alone because he might not help you at all, so be prepared for him not to love you back.