Expert: Bruce D. Frank - 11/20/2007

Question
i had an affair with a married man. I ended it. He waits a few weeks and enquires how i am through texting. He then text/tells me he loves me when i start to get sick of it and not have sex with him or not have the same feeling he starts to call me his favourite. Is he having sex with another lover or does he actually love me?

Answer
Very simple, if he loves you he would end his marriage an be with you.  He is playing a game of cat and mouse with you.  The more he pulls away, the more you want him.  Then he gives you a little peek and your desire gets stronger.  He may enjoy your company, but, until he decides to dedicate his life to you I would be concerned about his love.  What you have to look at is why you decided to end it with him.  Listen to your feelings and emotions.  They are usually correct.  Good Luck.