Expert: Sara - 2/10/2005

Question
Hi Sara
Rita did not like my question ... so I turn to you. I am married but do not get enough sex at home. Can you give some hints on how to pick up married women ? For example, in general are they looking for romance or just sex outside the wedlock ? Where should I look for them ?
Thanks!
Milo

Answer
Hey there Milo! Well I'm going to have to ask kyou a few questions. Why is it that you feel that you need to go outside your marrage to get more sex. Have you tried talking to your wife about your problem? If you haven't communicated with her and told her how you're feeling, how is she suposed to know to fix it. Maybe there is something going on that you don't know about that is causing her to not want to be as sexually active as you would like. My first piece of advice is to talk to your wife before making any rash decisions that could change your life forever. I don't like giving people advice on how to cheat on their partner without knowing details. I cannot help you unless you are first willing to admit that there may be a bigger problem here that you should be facing. My husband and I have experienced this problem many times in our relationship (his lack of interest in sex) and 9/10 times his lack of interest had something to do with stress or his self-confidence but never anything to do with his love for me or me having to question if I still turn him on. Maybe your wife is just having some personal problems she doesn't feel she can share with you. If you let her know that you are there for her instead of stepping out on her, it may be the best thing for your sex life. After confronting my husband when we were going through the same thing our sex life became better than it was before because we had a deeper feeling for each other because we knew that we could count on each other for support no matter what. Please at least try this and if it doesn't work then write me back and I'll try to help you with your problem. But for the sake of your marrage I think it's best if you try to work it out or maybe it would just be better to leave the marrage if you're that unhappy. Good luck and take care.
Sara.