Expert: RITA - 11/6/2004

Question
Hi Rita, could you please give me some insight on this situation? Thanks.

I've gotten close with this really charming Don Juan type. He was romantic in the beginning, calling and sms-ing nearly everyday. I heard rumors about him being a major player with plenty of girlfriends. I'm not the type to listen to rumors, but I made it clear to him at the same time that he's got to prove himself to me if he really wants to go out with me, I won't tolerate any kind of disrespect, and I'd like to take things slow. He continued acting sweet and reassuring me that he's genuinely interested in me. It's been nearly 2 months, we haven't gone out yet and don't really see much of each other when in campus, but he was calling and texting me really really often.
However, 2 weeks ago, something totally unexpected happened, and it certainly gave a real twist to our 'relationship'. I was in serious trouble that particular day (I was chased and attacked by a lunatic and ended up lost in some neighbourhood), and I don't know why I did it, but I called him....
He arrived to pick me up with his friends as soon as he could and actually helped me out that day. I was touched....
I called him a few days later to thank him (the 1st time I've ever called him...usually he's the one who calls...).
He acted normal and friendly, flirted a little, told me if I need him in anyway, I can call him anytime.
The problem is....he's completely stopped texting me and it's been a week since I heard from him at all.
No more sweet messages, no calls, not even missed calls...It feels weird coz he used to text me atleast twice a day every single day...but now...zero....
I still like him...
I wonder what's going through his head right now?
Do you think he sees me in a new light now? Before he was sooo full of sweet words, I was even under the impression that he never took things seriously....I guess I really wanted to rely on him and I want him to take me and my feelings seriously, and to show him that not everything should be sweet all the time...
I'm very sure that he likes me or atleast he's really attracted to me, it's like when we meet in campus to say hi there'd be this intense feeling between us, he's been eyeing me since early this year but I didnt really know him then, until a few months back, when we were finally introduced to each other.
Please tell me what u think...I still like him, and really wanna know what he could be thinking about me after that incident....

Answer
I think either he, A: gave up on the chase or B: wants you to start showing some interest. Maybe he felt like you weren't as interested in him because he was doing all the work....waddya think?
Guys will only chase so long before they get someone else in the "sights" so to speak, so maybe you ought to try showing him or asking him outright how he feels about you.
Wouldn't hurt, and you would get your answer alot better from the source, rather than me
Take care