Expert: Sam E - 11/21/2006

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keep in mind we have only been going out for about a week but she is someone that i have been searching for my entire life i truly feel i am falling for her and i am not about to loose her so if you could really help thank you sooo much

okay i have a few things but yeah
she told me that her last name is powers okay and i searched for her myspace account under the name Ashley Powers and nothing came up

when we first met i looked at her myspace profile and it said in a relationship and i asked her if she already had a bf and she said no then i asked her well why do you have that on there then and she said because she has stalkers now which i can believe ya know cause myspace is full of creaps

she doesnt call when she promises that she will, she wont give me her number becuase she says her parent will spaze out if i call or something and they wont let her use their house phone which i dnt get but if they dnt let her use it why has she called me from there before ?

why she doesnt come over even though she lives not even 15 min away granted she doesnt have a car and i dnt but i have offered to have her get picked up and she has declined the way i look at it is that if she was playing  me or was useing me for like just to get dick or something she would still come over wouldnt she ?

she is the sweetest young lady that ihave met in my entire life its almost like she is too sweet ya know but ithink thats just me because i have never been with anyone like that so it makes me think ya know is she playing me

again thank for you're help i apreciate it i just have so many questions i dnt know how to ask ya know without her thinking that i dnt trust her i do trust her but only so much due to being screwed over in past relationships ya know  is there any indirect questions that i could ask to find out if she is
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Hi i was wondering if there are any good questions to ask you're girlfriend to see if she is cheating not like direct questions you know and also how can i find out if she is. is there any other methods
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Why do you think she might be cheating? Give me some reasons or signs that make you think she is and I might be able to help you.
Sam

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It doesn’t sound like she is cheating.
She probably called you without her parents knowing, or she is embarrassed of them finding out. A lot of people like to keep private about relationships.  They don’t want their parents to know.
I really get the impression that she is not ready to be in the type of relationship you are. She seems a little immature. I don’t mean that she is, I mean that her idea’s of relationships are immature. I remember being 13 or maybe 14 and dating a guy who always called and wanted to come over. I liked him but was so shy and immature in the relationship department that I would tell him he can’t call or come over and if he did I would not answer the phone or the door.
He  broke up with me when I refused to go to the dance with him. I just wasn’t ready for all that. I thought I was, but I wasn’t. We were a couple for only 2 weeks.
I get the feeling that is what she doing.  Back off for a while and see what she does. She may feel pressured by you. Give her space. If she is ready she’ll come around. If she is not, let her go and when she matures, she will come looking for you.
If you push at her she’ll be done and when the time comes she won’t want anything to do with you.
Hope this helps you,
Write me anytime!
Sam