Expert: Courtney - 5/18/2000

Question
hi courtney,

I`ve just broke up with my gf or she broke up with me. Things were goin really well in my opinion, we never had fights and i try to cater to her needs. i told her that i really cared for her and all, and she says that seh does for me too, but think that we are so diff. and that we should break it off earlier than later. I belive that if two ppl like each other, they can work things out, i guess she doesn`t. We`ve been together for 3 months, and now i think / don`t know on how to be just friends. What do u think of my situation?

Answer
Well, I think that if you care for this girl and she's worth it, ask her if she wants to even try to work it out. If not, then you'll probably have to get over her before you'll feel comfortable being "just" her friend. I can't really tell you how to get over her, because everyone's different in that area.
But I can tell you a story to help you get over her on your own. There was once a child walking down a path in the woods, and she saw a butterfly in a cuccoon. The butterfly was struggling to get out and it looked like it was having a really hard time in doing this. She watched longer and the butterfly still couldn't seem to get out. So she held the cuccoon and opened it just enough for the butterfly to crawl out inter her palm, and when it did, it shriveled up, and it died. The point is that the butterfly struggles to get out because when it does, blood that is very necessary, goes to it's wings so it can fly, and turn into something beautiful. But if it's helped out of the cuccoon, it will die because the blood won't circulate.
You can get through it though, have faith and keep your head up!
Love and luck
Courtney