Expert: Don - 4/14/2007

Question
~~>This started in November 2006, I have a FRIEND that introduced me to a  woman, who needed here computer looked at..  I was still  in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend.  Let me explain that 1st, I was with her for about 3 years, she became abusive in the relationship, physically and mentally..  Then I met this other gal from my friend, I started seeing her, while I was living with my ex abusive girlfriend.  Off and on we were seeing each other.  Then one night my ex followed me to her house, i was trying to end our endeavors, before I was caught at her house, the next thing that happened is my ex brought all my stuff to my new girls house, my ex was devastated.  My new girlfriend was understanding and let me in her home, I told her even thou she wanted to be with me we would not work out, yet she wanted me anyway...  As time went by I wanted to see my ex, and try to explain the truth, the reason why I did what I did and I was sorry...  Well what ended up happening is we made love again and started talking about mending our relationship.  I was confused and said perhaps their is a chance..  Yet all in all their was my other woman in my life who worshipped and loved me...  so finally i ended up telling my ex I did not want to work it out.. She started stalking me, following me around, coming to my work, coming to our home, etc. etc. Finally my mother told her she needled to leave me alone, well before she did, she decided to goto my new girlfriend's work and hand her a 10 page letter telling her we had sex, and talked about trying to work things out, dates and times were included, my girlfriend was devastated, and still is, she tells me she can forgive me, but cannot accept me.  I am on my knee's pouring my heart out to her each day, I truly love her, and tear my heart open to her, yet she does not wish to understand.  I need advice, and guidance on this one, never been here before, as far as the ex I have not spoken to her, yet she continues to position herself in my life,  at the moment she is with my exwife and child visiting, I just wish her gone, and wish I could work things out with the woman that loves me, I understand I made a mistake putting myself in a compromising position, but us their any hope for love  in my life?

Answer
First off you need to get some kind police action involved with your crazy ex girlfriend. A restraining order would be nice to start, because she is trying to ruin your life and you don't want it to get any worse than it is. With the way things are going she's going stalk you and bother you forever unless you do something to stop her. So my first stop would be down to the police to file a complaint against her for harassment.

As far as your current girlfriend, there is nothing you can do to trick her to get her to come back. There is always a chance but you have to show her you are serious about her and done with the foolishness of your ex. Showing her that you are making moves to rid your ex from your life would be a step in the right direction. Then all you can do is apologize again and again and hope she accepts. If she doesn't take you back, please take this as a life lesson and learn to think with the head above your shoulders and not the one below your belt.

I hope this helped and good luck