Expert: Don - 12/7/2007

Question
I suspect my husband is having a long distance relationship with someone whom he met while on vacation, shortly after he came back from vacation he was very mean towards me, i caught him once receiving a text message when i asked him to see it he asked me why and wouldn't let me see it i tried grabbing the phone from him and it fell and broke.  This was in April, i found a phone number in his wallet which he was trying to hide and asked him about it he came up with a story that just did not fly with me, he changed all access to his celphone which i was privy to but after digging i got the password and was back in business in checking his celphone bill almost everyday at the same time he gets a phone call which lasts for anywhere between 20mins. to 60mins. however since I would say September it has decreased, as i am forever constantly letting him know what i suspect.my husband is a natural born liar i do not beleive anything he says as i was through this in november of last year when he boldly looked me in the face and lied as i eventually found out that he was talking to another female. lately we met in a situation where we went out partying and i received  lot of attention from some younger and older men and one of the younger guys came and asked me to dance, my husband became so upset over this he left me at the party. after making up he has been overly attentive and loving. however while going through his phone i saw the number dialed of the female, i want to confront my husband about it but i want to do it in a way that he thinks i know something. i contemplated calling the female to find out what's going on but i wouldn't want my husband to know. what do i do please help.

Answer
Just pretend like you talked to the girl, tell your husband that you called the woman and she already told you something happened between the two of them so he might as well tell you the truth and if he doesn't tell you the truth it's over. Don't allow him to leave or call the woman, you have to make sure he gets his answer right then so that he can't really call the woman and find out you've never spoken to her.