Expert: Don - 12/28/2007

Question
I find constant profiles being posted and charges on his credit card for dating sites. He finally admits to being on them and it became a sort of joke. He says he doesn't belive anyone ever really hooks up and he is just checking it as entertainment. I have set him up on several occasions and he has bit so much so as to agree to meet me. He says he knows it's me but I doubt it. He has a very high profile job and owns his own company. There is a lot of stress involved and he cruises the porn and dating sites as stress relief. I am being totally stupid aren't I? I just can't leave him over something that does not prove he is cheating but for me what he is doing feels like cheating and hurts just as bad. I need some solid advice from a man and his point of view although I think I know the answer. Help me accept it, please!!!

Answer
It's not technically cheating because he hasn't as far as you know slept with any other women. But he is setting the ground work to cheat, he has no way of knowing that you are the women who is setting up to meet him on those dating sites, so if he is agreeing to meet with you, he might be agreeing to meet with other women as well.

Also it doesn't really matter if he is just browsing those sites for fun, if the two of you are in a relationship and what is doing hurts you, if he really cares about you, he would stop doing something that he knows makes you hurt or feel bad about the relationship.

I wouldn't trust that he isn't cheating because he is showing all the signs of somebody who is either already cheating or planning to cheat. Be careful and watch what he is doing because I think he is cheating.