Expert: Sam E - 12/13/2006

Question
I have been in a relationship for for almost 3 years and i trusted my boyfriend. We have a son together, but now i think he either cheating or he wants to cheat on me. I told him this and he deny everything, but yet he gives his number out and he talks on the phone with whoever. I would like to know what to do because i can't take it anymore, i found out he's been talking to girls on myspace and telling them he's not in a relationship. What should i do? Please help.

Answer
Talking to girls would not be an indication. I understand that it can be upsetting, but that alone is not reason to get too upset. HOWEVER, telling them he is single is not okay! Why would he tell girls this unless he was after something?
Answer a few questions for me okay,
What does he say about this?
Are  there periods of time where he is missing or you have caught him lying about where he was at?
Does he seem uninterested in you or extra nice at times?
Does he go out at night alone and not want you around?
Is he taking more of an interest in himself? Like suddenly working out, buying new clothes?
Does he fight a lot with you for no reason so he can have an excuse to storm out?
When on the phone does he sometimes leave the room?
Also, have you tried talking with other guys?  While we try and figure this out, you should turn the tables a bit. See how he likes it. Do exactly what he is doing. Stop acting like you care what he does. No longer talk about it or even act as if you care at all about him cheating or not. If you have a myspace account, make it say single and get as many guys as you can on your friend list. Start talking to guys, calling them. Everything he does. If he is going out, you start going out. EVERYTHING he is doing, you do and STOP acting like you care what he is doing.
Write me back,
Sam