Expert: Bruce D. Frank - 11/20/2007

Question
i invited my galore to cum along with me and my boyfriend went out to the clubs....i was too drunk to remember anything after that...wen we got back to the hotel we all had sex and in the morning i was so jealous that he slept wit my mate..he said that it was me and her that started kissing and he only joined in because we started it...im still going out wit him now but i cant still forget what happened. sometimes i blame myself for what happened but other times i think that if he really loved me he would have stopped me from doing anything when i was drunk but other times i think that he was just waiting for the rite time and he grabbed it when he had the chance.i don't know whether to leave him or not..i can never get that picture out of ma head of them sleeping together.

Answer
Situations like this are very messy. The fact that you were too drunk to remember means that you don't really know what your actions were.  Some couples agree to threesomes and are fine.  The problem is, when something happens outside of the consent zone there are broken hearts and pain.  You will have to talk with your partner and get everything out.  If you really care about him then you must talk it out, and be willing to be honest even about your part in the thing.  Good Luck.