Expert: Danyelle - 11/7/2000

Question
I write you in order to ask you a small advice.
I´m 26 years old and I have been dating with a 21 years old girl . I´ve
been dating after a long heart breaking history, and it was beautiful
dating because before we had our freedom for quite long time, in which
we have seen each other also if we were not boyfriend and girlfriend. So
two weeks ago we have been dating after her decision (she was not sure
in the beginning to date with me, but after she realize that she love
me... this is not related to the question that I want to ask you).

I don´t know for whick weakness that happen to me, some days ago I´ve
been kissing another girl one evening in disco... she was just a girl
that I meet one evening, and I had fun desiring her.... I´ve to say that
also before dating I´ve been desidering a lot of different girls,
changing always partners, but now I realize that I want to settle down
with this girl ... but still it´s difficult to me if I see beautiful
girl to don´t desire them...
So now I´m relly sorry for what I´ve done also if it was just a kiss.
Should I ask forgive and tell her that I did this mistake? I know that
if I tell this I can break our equilibrium, because it happen to me also
with my previous girl friend... now I really love my girlfriend and I
fell  guilty with her. I´m also a strong christian beliver, I don´t know
if it´s enough to ask forgive to God... what should I do in your
opinion?

I really would like if you can help me with a your answer as soon as
possible ... and keep private this letter
thanks in advance

Answer
Hello. Well I think that if you really regret kissing this other girl, asking God for forgiveness should be enough. I am a Catholic and I believe that Jesus died for everyones sins so you can be forgiven. I wouldn't tell your girlfriend if I were you. I know that it is wrong to lie to her but if you know it will hurt your relationship, and it will never happen again than I don't think she should have to know about it. So, as long as you don't kiss anyone else everything will be ok. I hope my advice has been helpful to you.