Expert: Shauna - 4/20/2004

Question
I've started a relationship w/a girl who is seeing someone and they live together.  We want to see each other but she can't come up w/ any good excuse to be out at night a little late>

Answer
You are asking me to help her cheat with you huh? Tell me one thing. Do you really want to be with someone who already has a relationship with someone else? Doesn't it occur to you that she will cheat on you too? Would you really be happy like that? Wouldn't you want a girl who wants to be with you and you can trust her and love her and KNOW she won't ever cheat on you? But if you really want this, then go for it. I have never cheated on anyone before and I am only 20, so I can't really give out ideas on how to and where you should say you should be and come up with excuses. I guess all she can do is tell her boyfriend that she is going out with the girls late that night. I mean my ex-boyfriends told me they will be out with the guys late or they had to work late. I guess that works to a certain extent. But if her boyfriend finds out, your ass will be the one he is going to get after. I hope you have thought about all this. I am sure you like her, obvisouly you do but.. do you really want this? At least she told you she has a boyfriend, but it doesn't make you much of a man when the girl has control of the relationship. I mean not only is she playin' her boyfriend, but she is playin' you too because she still goes home with him man. You are going to let a girl, no matter how great she is or how beautiful she is, let her play BOTH of you at the same time? What she can't get from her man, she will get from you because you are letting her. And what she can't get from you, she will always in no doubt get from her boyfriend. Put it this way, if she REALLY likes you and wants to be with you, then why isn't she? Why does she have to have a side dish waiting next to her dessert? Why can't she break up with her boyfriend and be with only you? Ever think of any of this? Tim this girl is going to play your heart out. Later you are going to say "what the fugg I just got played" but you can only blame yourself. You can't play the player if the player is the Coach of the game. Get what I am sayin'?