Expert: Kit Goins - 10/10/2009

Question
I am 15 years old and I am a fairly new Christian, as my family is not very strong in their faith. There is this guy that I really like, and sometimes it seems like he likes me as well.   He is a Christian and was raised this way. I know that he is very strong in his faith, and I really like that. The problem is that I am not sure if it is bad that he is my close girlfriend's brother. He is almost 2 years older than me and we are fairly good friends. I don't want to hurt my friend, and I don't want to ignore my feelings in case he is the right guy for me, or he won't say anything either because he doesn't want to hurt his sister. Also, I go to the same youth group as both of them, but I don't go to church. Do you think that this is a problem? Can you still be a Christian and not go to church? Should I tell him how I feel, or not? Also, he may be leaving to go to college as this is his graduating year. Should I tell him before he goes? If so, how long before he actually leaves should I tell him? Thank you so very much for your time.


Answer
Greetings, in the name of Jesus, the christ....

First of all, who told you, that you would hurt anyone,
if dating your friends brother?

Let me ask you something...
why would you think you would be hurting anyone, by dating them?

Why would it hurt your friend...all this does not make sense.

I would think your friend would be honored or feel special in some way...
not hurt !!  I think you should just come right out and speak your
heart and mine to all concerned, at the same time. And let them speak
what they feel.

Now, about not going to church...you'll probably think I'm odd or something
when I tell you, that I don't go to 'a' church much at all, myself.
But this does not necessarily mean that I do not 'have' church.

You see, church is not a BUILDING....but it is rather a PLACE, where all
of like faith go to, to fellowship and learn from each other etc.

So in actuality, you could just have fellowship whereever you want.
It doesn't actually mean a CHURCH BUILDING.
In fact, there is a passage in God's word that teaches "where two or three
come together, there I am in the midst".  So don't worry too much about
not going to church.  However, we all need to fellowship together, to help
each other stay strong in the faith, especially when Jesus' second coming
is soo shortly to become. But it depends on correct doctrinal teaching
from God's word itself, not just from some denominational church...with
its own teachings coming from so many perverted versions of the bible.
So be careful. The bible also teaches us to not forsake the assembly
of ourselves, especially when the time draws near. Allow the Holy
Spirit inside you to guide you in all things...listen to your inner self.


I hope this helps.
In His Service, and Love
Bro.  Kit