Expert: Kit Goins - 8/9/2009

Question
QUESTION: hi, i know that it says in the bible that couples should not live together before marriage, but i was wondering if it is ok to sleep under the same roof occasionally? like if you want to go away somewhere over night or something like that?

ANSWER: Greetings in the name of Jesus...

First of all, no where in God's word (KJV) does it say "that couples should not live together before marriage"...who told you that? What it does teach is that you can't have sex before marriage. That's sin.  The main point is this...never should you engage in sex outside of marriage.

If you wanted to go to sleep etc it would or might be ok...only if you do not engage in the act of sex. If you can be sure that either you or he will not have sex, then I guess it would be ok.
But think about this first...if you are placed together in that way...it will or could lead to having sex, it would tempt the both of you,into committing that sin.

Let me try to explain to you better why you and he should refrain from having sex outside of marriage...ok?  (I know you might think this is old fashioned thinking, but after hearing this, you 'll understand and agree).

There are two basic reasons for having sex, first is for pro-creation...it was and is ordered in Gods' word to "go forth and multiply" (read Genesis)Second, sex is used for forming a BOND between you and your spouse spiritually. And once that bond is made, it should last a lifetime...and keep you together. In other words, the reason for so many divorces, simply is this; too many people have sex outside of marriage today...and therefore break any bonds made to any other person, and thereafter, divorce happens, due to cheating and attempting to bond with someone else...which is not God's way.

I hope I was able to help you decide for yourself, which would be better.

In His Service, and Love
Bro.  Kit


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QUESTION: i have asked a few people about this topic now and every response i get basically tells me the same thing, no sex before marriage.
i already know that, i just want to know if it is allowed for two people in a relationship to sleep under the same roof?
for example, say i wanted to go camping with my partner and his family, or we both wanted to go and visit a friend of one of ours who lived to far away to return the same day.. is that ok or not?

Answer
Hi,
I answered your question, what YOU need to do now, is carefully READ what I said again...
apparently you want me or someone to give you the green light on what you want...to do here.

You want a license to be tempted into sin.  IF you can sleep together (either separately or in same bed) without allowing each other to engage in sex, then fine...what you need to understand is what I tried to explain before.  By allowing yourself the freedom of sleeping under the same roof
you could be tempted to commit that sin.
So why allow yourself to be tempted, in the first place?

In His Service, and love
Bro.  Kit