Expert: Kit Goins - 9/11/2009

Question
Hi, I am 26 and have been with my boyfriend for more than 5 years.  We are strong believers and also decided in the beginning of our relationship no sex before marraige.
Also to avoid temptation, we will never kiss too intimately, I know it sound's funny, but it helps.

We came over to the UK a year ago and in order for both of us to stay here, I had to go onto his permit as a dependant. For that reason we have to live together.  I feel guilty about this, especially when you have to be an example for other people and non christians and then alwayd try an explain to them that we still have out limits.

But it is really saving money and keeping us together.  I've tried to see if there's anything in the Bible about this, but I just want to know if this is wrong in God's eyes.

Answer
Greetings, in the name of Jesus...

I'm so very happy to hear that you obey the doctrine concerning sex before marriage.

To answer your question...I believe you are correct in that there is no particular verse or passage concerning this subject. Except for specific commands found in 1 Corinthians 6:12-ch. 8
These are the rules concerning marriage in general. This is the only written passages regarding marriage.  You should, by careful study and reading, decide for yourself what path to follow.

IMHO, as long as you refrain from sex before marriage, then there is nothing wrong.
You see, the importance of this rule, is that when we have sex for first time with the person we wish to marry, there is a special spiritual BONDING of and for the couple. Which if allowed to happen will bond the two together as God intended, never to put asunder (torn apart)

This is the reason today for so many divorces, we refuse to wait until marriage
and begin bonding with everyone we have sex with, and it gets worse.

Hope this helps.
In His Service, and Love
Bro. Kit