Expert: Phillip Senn - 3/16/2011

Question
QUESTION: I promised God not to have sex till i marry but due to weaknes of body i am finding it difficult to stand by it. Can i make another vow to replace it? Will he forgive me?

ANSWER: Chigozie,

A vow is just that... a vow, a promise. God expects us to fulfill our promises. Yes, He does offer forgiveness when we fail, but His expectation is that we will stand true to our faith that He will provide all of our needs in His time. You will not be disappointed if you wait till marriage. God will make your marriage much more special, as you will have a relationship built on faith, purity and love, not based on lust. God's way is not always an easy way, but it is always the right way, and it is the way that He has planned to provide the greatest joy and happiness in your life.

With Love In Christ,
Phillip Senn

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QUESTION: what makes sex aside marriage a sin is it the sparm you waist?

Answer
Chigozie,

God has declared that the ideal (His perfect will) is one man for one woman for a lifetime. Whatsoever God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. When God joins man and woman, it is a marriage. Apart from that, sex is a physical joining and an emotional joining, but they are not joined spiritually. Scripture indicates that, whatsoever is not of faith is sin. The one that follows his own physical attraction, rather than following God's direction on marriage sins against God's clear direction, because he operates apart from faith (trusting God).

With Love In Christ,
Phillip Senn