Christianity -- Christian Living/Sex


Ok this may be a off the wall question but I am way to scared to ask my pastor. What is the view of masturbation in the Christian religion as well as I am married so I know sex is between a husband and his wife but sometimes I feel like we are still doing something wrong. I don't know like it's too dirty of sex or we do too much.

Hello Danielle,

That is a good question, yet a difficult one to answer. "Your question is not off the wall" I am going to respond as it relates to your belief system based upon your statement "But, sometimes I feel like we are doing something wrong" Tells me that this is something that is troubling to you.

It appears this is something that troubles your spirit, and if that is the case, "Then it is wrong for you" God is a God of peace. He wants to see his children at peace, not full of guilt. If this makes you feel guilty then it may be wrong for you.
Danielle, This is also something that you can pray about. God already knows your struggle, nothing surprises God or is to shameful to ask him.

God created sex for husband and wife in order to express their deep love for each other. He does not describe what you can or cannot do in the martial bed, but we are convicted when we do something that we believe is not pleasing to God, which will direct us to change. I realize that I did not give you a yes or no answer, that is because it is no a yes or no question. It is a personal question. Some couples may be comfortable with masturbation as a couple and some may not,it is a personal decision. I hope the response is helpful to you. If  you have any more questions or if I was not clear please feel free to writ again.
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I am able answer to questions on salvation, marriage and family, forgiveness and divorce as well as other biblical and life related question. I am a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor, I am able to research and answer questions according to the Word of God.(Bible) I enjoy guiding others to explore what the Word of God says about living our lives according to His Word. The Word of God answers all of lifes questions, which if followed will give us a life that will weather the storms, at which time we will find that we are still standing even in the mist of the storm. Remember, the Word of God promised us "That he will never leave us or forsake us" May God Bless and keep you in his perfect care.


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