Christianity -- Christian Living/Follow up


Sorry, maybe I wasn't very clear with my first question. What really concerns  and worrys me is why I want to do this. What is wrong with me? Why do I think it is okay. Why do I have troubling stopping.

Lisa, again, please forgive my delay.  In driving across the country, my schedule and Internet access have been in flux.

To answer your questions, this desire and pleasure you have is in you because you are a part of the corrupted human race.  We all have matters of corruption in various areas.  In my case, gambling got a hold of me and enslaved me and nearly ruined my life.  Jesus offered me freedom from that, and now I am free of its power.  Of course, there are other areas He's addressing in me, just as He will address the lust in you that you understand to be corrupt.  Jesus is neither surprised nor shocked by your sin, but He is determined to rid you of it.  Enjoying that which is sinful is not uncommon, though different people may enjoy different sinful things than you do.  I would like to assure you that your desire for and enjoyment of these things is no reason to panic, but they are reason to get serious about seeking the Master's rescue.

To be honest, the slavery you face might be sexual in general, and not just specifically homosexual lust.  Sexual images - whatever they are - can be arousing to someone caught in the grip of sexual addiction.  I don't know how you deal with male images, but I think it would be a mistake to see it as a lesbian issue specifically.  Many men would be aroused by male images, not because they are homosexual, but because the images are sexual in nature.  Such images trigger something in our brains and bodies very naturally.  Natural doesn't always mean acceptable, and purposefully engaging in it, as in your case, is a natural sin that must be dealt with.  Remember, Jesus is not concerned primarily with whether you are homosexual; He wants you to live the righteous and full life you were created to live.  Any sexual corruption is outside of that good life, so I suggest coming honestly to Him, admitting humbly your problem and powerlessness to overcome it yourself.  He is aware and very ready to come to the rescue.  He will use His people in much of the process, but much of it will be between you and Him personally.

You are like all of us - in need and weak on your own.  Your struggle is different than others', but the person to whom you can and should turn is the same.  The heart is the fundamental place that needs correction.  Then the mind.  Jesus truly is expert in transforming both.  If you are willing to enter into a serious process with Him, you will find deep and lasting change - in this area and in countless others.


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Ryan Parish


I can answer just about any question about Christian living, believing that the Biblical revelation is meant to deal with all of life. Though not every modern issue is addressed specifically in the Bible, I feel confident in applying the grand principles of love, submission and Christ-likeness to all issues. I can't answer some questions definitively simply because God has not given detailed information on some matters. I can draw valid conclusions from what God has revealed, though.


I was raised in the church from my childhood, and have had an interest in God, the Bible and spiritual things from a very early age. At around the age of 15, I felt led to pursue a future in full time ministry. I've been in professional ministry since 2003, but was very active in teaching and encouraging Christians long before that. I preached my first sermon at the age of 15 and have found great joy in teaching God's truths ever since!

Pastor of New Hope Community Church; member of the Christian Ministers Association.

BA in preaching from Hope International University (Fullerton, CA); full time pastor for five years; continually engaged in reading and studying to further my understanding of Scriptures.

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