Expert: Kit Goins - 6/10/2006

Question

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You got one thing wrong he is not married he has been married and is divorced so is it ok for us to marry. I would never mess with a womans husband cause I dont want anyone to mess with mine if I had one. Some people say it's ok to remarry and some say it's not I wanted to ask someone who really knows GOD and thank YOU keep me in your prayers. Oh should I try and work it out with him or should I go on I dont even know why we stoppped taliking and when I ask he says that he does not want to talk about it. So what do I do hold on or let go?
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I cant seem to find any happiness in my life.
I cant keep a stable relationship  
When I think they are going good the next thing I know we break up why is this happening to me what am I doing wrong? I really want this one guy to work but he has been married is it ok for me to go for him? Why cant I find my husband? Why has GOD not sent him to me why do I have to be alone? If he is the one for me pray that it works and if not let me get over him and pray that I find the one GOD has fro me PLEASE PLEASE I am tired of this pain. HELP ASAP
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Answer -
Dear Ella,

Greetings in the name of Jesus...

First of all, I think you know the answer about going with a married man...so I will not go there.

As for the reason why God has not sent you a husband yet, I can not answer that either. That is something you'll have to ask God yourself.  I can help you learn how to hear directily from God, but I can not answer for Him.

All I can say is this...

I myself have waited more than 12 yrs...for my someone.
Up til just recently...I to was bewildered and confused
about why God has took so long. But I can only say that you should have patience, learn patience...spend more time getting to know God through His Son Jesus, instead of worrying about this or that guy. God will send you the right person in HIS time...not yours.  His main concern is that you first love and worship Him, all else comes second.

I waited so long myself and got very frustrated with God
for why He waited so long. But, guess what?  After I studied
His word, and became a better christian and really got to know Him better...He finally sent me my special someone.
I won't go into the long story, but just three weeks ago...after 34 yrs. God sent my high school sweetheart back to me again. And it has been almost like we never parted.
It's so wonderful. You see, God had to wait till I was where He wanted me in my spiritual walk and growth as a man. He also had to wait til my sweetheart (Carol) was ready.  Because I tried to get back with her about 3 times after we originally split up, but she wouldn't take me back. Yes it was my fault why we split back then. We were supposed to be married right after high school. But when we got back together just now, she has told me...that she is so impressed with my growth and maturity...as well as how much I have learned about life and God...that she wished that she had taken me back those times when I tried, as we both wasted alot of time without each other.

Just be patient dear...and begin studying God's word and pray to Him always. Sooner or later, if after praying, you still yourself and be quiet...you'll begin to hear that still small voice of God within your soul. And He'll amaze you with wonderous things.

Praise HIS Name  

In His Service and love
Bro  Kit

Answer
I'm sorry...I read it wrong.

I've already told you what you should do..when the time is right, God will send you your mr. right.

Get to know God, better, and learn of His ways...then you'll be able to speak to Him yourself and hear directly from Him..then He'll give you your answers you need.

Be patient. God works in His timing...not ours. When you are ready...and your mr right is ready...then it will be time.