Expert: Elder Greg Madden - 12/17/2007

Question
QUESTION: Is it ok for Christian married couples to watch sex videos? If no, give scripture references.

ANSWER: Catonya,

I believe that it is not alright for Christian married couples to watch sex videos. The reason is that viewing pornography will erode healthy relationships and can become a pathway to adultery and other serious problems. Sexual intercourse within a godly marriage draws a couple and their desire to please one another, together physically, emotionally as well as spiritually. On the other hand , self-stimulation and sexual gratification for its own sake is simply to fulfill one’s own lust.

Although the Bible does not specifically speak of  pornography, it does addresses the issues of inappropriate sexual arousal and promiscuousness.

Exodus 20:14
Thou shalt not commit adultery.  
20:17
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife...

Jesus set an even higher standard clearly warning about the destructiveness of “just looking.”

Matthew 5:27
Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:  
5:28
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.  
5:29
And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

Hebrews 13:4
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.  

A marriage bed cannot be pure if one of the partners is fantasizing about another person.

Catonya, I hope that this helps. One last this, I hope you don't mind, but you have asked me several questions (which I am more than happy to answer) and you have said that you have tried to ask other volunteers these same questions, and I was wondering if you are being asked these same questions by someone else, or if these are just things you have been wanting to know? Just curious.

God Bless!
Elder Greg Madden
http://www.forministry.com/USOKPENTEMMM1


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QUESTION: to help in your curiousity, the questions i've asked is because i wanted to know because my mom have asked me these questions and i told her i would try to get the answers for her. I gave her what I believed to be right from what I read of the word but she a person that want scriptures to show what you're saying which I can totally understand why but I didn't know where to look. I have my own page at http;//aflowofvirtue.spaces.live.com maybe you can view it, if you do, leave me a comment ok.

Answer
Catonya,

Thank you for answering my question. If you (or your Mother) have any other questions on this, or any other subject, please feel free to send them to me and I will do my best to help. May the Lord Jesus bless you and all that you do for Him!

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!

Elder Greg Madden
http://www.forministry.com/USOKPENTEMMM1