I regret I have not found a church, and decided the best thing to do or perhaps the most merciful thing I can do for myself is to stop looking. Looking can be exhausting, disappointing,and depressing and I put that pressure on myself and feel I have stopped looking for the remainder of the year.

Frankly, I DO feel better since I have stopped. The pressure to find a church is gone. The disappointment is gone. And the depression is gone. I wake up. Read my Bible. Listen to some songs and then go about my Sunday. That's the best I can do for now and I am not emotionally ready for more.

I don't want looking for a church to "beat me down" emotionally or make me depressed. I think God understands this is best for me now. The rest on Sunday makes me feel better. My therapist said I should not let Sunday ruin my life.

So we worked out ways to make Sunday less stressful and take some pressure off my shoulders. I feel better knowing that I am taking care of myself even though this means missing church. So, Sundays have been much happier. Seeing a therapist also makes me feel better too and she is a Christian.

So, overall, things have been better. I am thinking about taking a summer art class in June to meet people. Mostly, I am working on taking care of myself and taking a break from living up to others expectations. Thanks for praying for me. That makes me feel even better. Have a good evening :-)

I'm so glad you wrote back. My friend that lives out there had sent me this for you, "Tell her to check out Lake Avenue Church is a great traditional church in Pasadena.  It is right off the fwy so it is easy to get to.  
Hollywood Presbyterian is a good traditional church but could be too far.  
Bel Air Presbyterian is really good too but a little ways from Glendale." I just wanted to be sure and pass it along to you.

I'm so happy you're doing better and seeing a therapist! That is great!! That takes so much courage.

I am a full time artist now. I used to be an ordained minister. Art is very therapeutic. I'm a firm believer in Art. God is our creator and created us to be creative beings. Now I know how to better pray for you. Thank you for trusting and sharing with me. Lots of love and prayers,


All Answers

Answers by Expert:

Ask Experts


Leisha Hiester


Christianity in general, bible, faith, life situations, family, prayer. Questions regarding pain & suffering, comfort, church and the body of Christ. Experience in hardship cases; rape and abuse, divorce, PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) and the courts.


Former pastor's wife, teacher & speaker. Experience in the area
I wrote a book about my life experiences, "Little Girl Lost" published by Doubleday. I am thriving after many life traumas. I have spoken to thousands in churches, public arenas, teen events and colleges. I have spent years in the court systems prosecuting my perpetrators and helping other victims.

Christian American, "Little Girl Lost" by Doubleday, Focus on the Family, Campus Crusade, many more.

Former Christian minister, 22 years marketing experience in Christendom.

Awards and Honors
Nominated for the Gold Medallin ECPA award.

Past/Present Clients
Promise Keepers, Focus on the Family, Campus Crusade for Christ, Joni & Friends, 700 Club, many more.

©2017 All rights reserved.