Expert: Jaycie - 1/1/2008

Question
What is your answer to sexual orientation? I am gay and also a Christian. I believe homosexual orientation is a curse from god from the sinful act of divorce of the parents. My sexual orientation is no choice I will guarantee that, why on earth would we want it? I know from a straight man of god you could never, never even come close to understanding that. Just imagine for once  if I am right, whats gods answer to this? Yeah, your saying just be heterosexual..Sure, why don't you leave your wife and start having sex with a man, could you? I don't think so. Thats how it is for us to act a heterosexual life. I've tried it believe me. Is it gods will then for us to live without a partner and be unhappy and never have love, or companionship? Thats how I'm living, because I cannot satisfy a women nor can I succumb to homosexuality. This is a HUGE problem. 80% of all young peoples suicides are because they would rather die then be gay. Is that Gods plan? We have NO choice, how could we have been genetically made to be this way? I myself am very unhappy and have never nor never will know what it is like to love(sexually) someone. I have no reason to live, There is nothing I can do about it. I have been on my knee's crying to god to help me and make me straight, But its not going to happen and I have to accept that. This is Gods punishment, but towards the children. So do why burn in hell because of our sinful parents? You can't even begin to understand what we go through. Just try with an open mind, that maybe, just maybe there is nothing we can do about this. Then what? I have a close relationship with God and My mission from God is to educate others the truth on sexual orientation. Please reply

Answer
Hi Allen,

First off I want to tell you that I am LDS(Mormon). So most of what I think has come from what I have been taught in my church. I'm going to tell you what I think based on my church's views and my opinions from those views. If you don't like it, I'm sorry.

I believe that you are not born gay. Heavenly Father made us perfect and so that is how we are born. Any bad things that happen to us are because of our own influences and those things that are part of the world. I believe that it is a choice that people make if they want to be gay. They may not know it but it is. We are told that homosexuality is wrong. Marriage is between a man and a woman and no one else. Many people are confused by this but it's what we believe.

If there is anything that I can help you with or if you have any more questions for me just ask.