Expert: Susan Milillo - 10/5/2008

Question
Hi! It's N.G!
Thanks for that advice on My friend that I have a crush on. I have now decided that I am not going to go any farther into this crush. I still like him, but I'm just going to have to get over it because he is not a devoted Christian and has no intention of becoming one right now. He is a nice guy with a good heart that needs the Savior, and I have made it my mission to try to show him how WONDERFUL it is to be right with God.
But any way, I have a little bit more info on Vanny. I think he was just acting a little more obnoxious than he really is because he was nervous. He had never been in a church before pryer to when he started coming. Though he still needs Jesus, he is not as bad as he was.
I have another question that I was hoping you could answer that I have sent to 2 other people on here, one, who sent it back saying she was unable to answer and another who I sent it to a month ago and has not responded since. So I was hoping you could answer. I belive that God has told me who the person who I'm going to marry is. His name is David and I'm not sure if it was God, or just the devil trying to throw me off course. But the idea has been taking up allot of my thoughts and distracting me from allot. I don't really know him yet, and I've been wondering how God would be able to work it if it is Him. I've had to remind myself many times that if it is God, He will work it out. But I still can't get past it. What should I do?
Thanks for listening!                    Sincerely,
                                     forever His servant,
                                                Taryn.
P.S. And I don't mind if you asked your husband about my previous question. Thanks for thinking about it!

Answer
Dear Taryn (N.G.) ---  wondering, how do you get NG out of Taryn?

Your name is so pretty - sounds like a princess!

I'm very impressed by your mature decision that you have to try and 'get over' your crush.   Yeah, just 'live God loud' in front of Him, and most of all PRAY that the Holy Spirit will give him a hunger for God.    But if he isn't serious about God, no matter how nice he is, it will never be enough.
So Vanny is doing better -- glad to hear it!!   It's amazing how in time we see things we didn't see before, and come to understand people better.  Does he seem to be responding to the things of God?
As far as David is concerned, -- I think I need a little more information, more background.   What happened - or what did you hear - etc. that you felt was God speaking to you about this guy?  I mean yeah, sometimes we humans just get crazy thoughts. (As a side note,  just because you don't know him now doesn't necessarily mean anything.   There was a time when I 'knew' my husband on a very surface level - funny enough, his name is David too  - but hardly paid any attention to him -- and then a couple years later, when we both were at just the right point in our lives, we really hit it off!
So, it is possible.  But don't get too caught up in it.  Just serve God and love Him with all your heart, doing the things you KNOW He has told you to do in His Word.  
Try not to spend too much time daydreaming about any guy right now; I look back on my life and wish I had spent more time productively -- I had crushes on SO many different guys growing up, it was like a part time occupation ! :-)   And I didn't marry any of those.
My sense is, and I definitely could be wrong, is that God didn't tell you this, Satan didn't tell you this, it was just one of those 'thoughts' that fly through our heads.  As far as God telling you, I think He usually leads us in ways that have a practical application in that we can DO something about it now.  I don't know if it would do you any good for you to know you were going to marry someone several years down the road.  Talk about being preoccupied, I think that could be terribly distracting!    However, if this is something that's just sort of 'stuck' on your mind, first I'd say: practice some of the things you know God is telling you to do through His word - the things you find hard to do - to make sure you stay focused; then also, if it's convenient, why not get to know this guy?  It could be you will find out the two of you have nothing in common, or he has devoted to God to never date, and be single for his whole life.  Maybe you have absolutely NO common interests.  How would that be for a lifetime? :-)  So in that case, it wouldn't really make sense that God would be giving you a specific message about this guy.    
So, I don't really know what led you to wonder about this, but try not to get distracted from what you know God wants you to do.
And if this guy is part of your future, it can't help but 'happen' when the time is right.
:-)   Love,  S.M.
p.s.   Please feel free to e-mail me at my personal address; I don't know how many times they let you send followups.  My address is
valleylily@optonline.net