Expert: Dr Tim Gladu - 11/27/2008

Question
I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm Christian. Because of my religion, I don't plan to have sex before marriage. But does sucking dick count as sex? I've always thought that being Christina meant that I'm not allowed to have vaginal sex before marriage. I don't wanna ask my parents if sucking dicks counts as premarital sex because I'm not comfortable with talking about sex with them. Anyways, I've sucked 21 different dicks before (I count it) and I don't plan to stop because I love sucking dicks! I love the smell and taste of dicks and I once sucked off 3 guys at the same time. But the only dick I suck now is my boyfriend's and I suck it multiple times a day. I've always thought that sucking dick was okay but I started thinking about what premarital sex really is and now I'm worried if sucking dicks could count as premarital sex! So, does it? Because if it does count as premarital sex, I don't know if I'll stop sucking dicks... I'll feel bad that I'm sinning, but sucking dicks is one of my favorite things to do... Dicks are just so yummy and delicious to me! And the cum is so tasty! I just really love sucking them. So, am I sinning or not?

Answer
Kelly,

I have to say that you could have chosen to use better language. I will just over look it for now. You are having oral sex so yes this would count as pre marital sex. Just because you are not having intercourse does not mean that what you are doing is right in any way. I want you to look at some scripture and you make the judgement. If you are going to continue no matter what I say then please read what the Bible has to say.

The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. (1 Corinthians 6:13)
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18)

Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

We should not commit sexual immorality. (1 Corinthians 10:8)

For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. (1 Thessalonians 4:7)

You are to abstain from ... sexual immorality. (Acts 15:29)

Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. (Colossians 3:5)

But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars - their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death. (Revelation 21:8)

For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person - such a man is an idolater - has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. (Ephesians 5:5)

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. (Ephesians 5:3)

The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. (Galatians 5:19-21)

I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. (Galatians 5:21)