Expert: Jaycie - 7/23/2008

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QUESTION: in this case when two pple  love each other and plans and do things in common then have dreams together for a better future ,and when they have sex they dont feel that it is wrong cos they believe that they are met for each other pls tell me is there a cause that follows and is there any  hinderances of God not blessing the both parties cos mostly the lady feels that she is far from God.so please how can she drop this habit of sex and follow God with all of her heart.thank you

ANSWER: Before I answer this, I need to clear it up. Are these two people really in love? Do they plan to get married? Are they religious at all, either of them? You said they feel fine about having sex because they feel like they were supposed to be together. Was it always that way? Were they ever nervous or worried that this was something wrong? Or did they decide they were supposed to be together and then start being intimate? If you could answer these questions for me that would be great. Otherwise I don't really have a great answer. It's just based on my own opinions. I know it's kind of a lot but if you could that's great. If not, tell me and I'll think of some more things to say. Thanks.

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QUESTION: yes this two pple love each other dearly and plans to get married  and they are both religion christian .and when i say that they have sex, i dont mean that it is the sex that made them too intimate i meant that theirlove is too strong that they can't do without each other and each time they are together they always feel the sensitivity of having sex and they become carried away and see themselves doing wat they dont like to do.and in that moment they both become nervous that they have sinned aginst God.so plsease just go ahead and tell me the effect of sin to that relationship and will God ever forgive them of these thing

Answer
If they both love each other that much, they should be able to wait until they are married to be that intimate. It is a sin to have sex before marriage. They both need to remember that. If they feel nervous because of that, that means they know they shouldn't be doing it and they need to stop. You can feel if you are doing something wrong and I think they feel it. They can be forgiven if they repent and don't do this again until they are married.