Expert: Susan Milillo - 8/4/2008

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QUESTION: Hello i'm 17 and the girl ive been talking to for about 4 months is same age. when we meet we hit it off so well, everything was so perfect for months. we both really like each other but wanted to focuse more on college. shes going to a christaion college in oklahoma and im goin to mine in maryland. we havent gone out but we both have strong feelings for eachother. i honestly love this girl i belive everyday i pray to god for her to be in my life. ive never really had a girlfriend. the issue is that she is very into her christianity and she went to church one day and the prophet told her not by name the boy she is seeing will destroy her life. (which she thinks is me)now when she told me this she was very upset. we seem perfect for each other. after we meet up and talked about it she was not wanting me to go. but she did tell me she wnted god in herlife way more than me. shes going off to college now i jus need help figuring out if we are going to work out later in life. do you think that if its not meant to be now it will later in life with her? and i haventtalked t  her since about three weeks ago. also our prom pics she had up she took them off. does this mean shes trying to forget about me

ANSWER: Dear Brian,

Hey!  I'm so sorry to hear about this, it sounds difficult.   Sorry I'm late answering you; I was on vacation, and only now got the e-mail.
Well, I'd like to know more about this guy who calls himself a prophet.
What information is he going on to say that you will be bad for her?  If he is just speaking without any knowledge of who you are, or anything about you, I would say that isn't biblical.  God hasn't given us people to act like 'Christian fortunetellers', from my understanding of the Bible. He wants us to act as He shows us clearly in His word to act. There is no 'hocuspocus' about it.       Now, you did say that she is 'very into her Christianity' -- Does that mean that you don't share her faith?   The Bible IS extremely clear about the foolishness of marrying someone who doesn't share your faith in Jesus Christ.  
It sounds like you really, really care about her, and that she really seems to care about you (yeah, possibly she's taking down the pictures to try to make herself move in the direction she believes she should go, based on what this 'prophet' said to her.
I would say, just really encourage her to let the Bible's clear counsel guide her, not what someone claims to know.  If she told the 'prophet' that you are not into Jesus, then there was something to go on for what he said.     As much as she cares about you, and as caring as you would try to be for her, if you aren't both following Jesus Christ, the Bible doesn't spell out a good future for that.  
And if you're not believing in and following after Jesus Christ, think about it long and hard!!  No person can fill that space of being the one who forever perfectly fulfills your heart.  Everyone will let you down from time to time. But Jesus Christ loves you perfectly. No one, not even the strongest and best of men, can make it alone.  If you haven't let Him into your life yet, please do!!
I will pray for your situation.......


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QUESTION: im just starting my Christian faith ive always have believed in god and now i want a stronger connection with him. more personal and loving

Answer
GREAT!  This is wonderful news, and it makes me feel happy to hear.
Just make sure you are looking to God for the personal and loving relationship, not primarily the girl you like so much. How is that going, by the way? Have you had a chance to talk with her openly about the whole thing?
Seek God -- He brings people into our lives to show us His love and help us understand it, but make Him first always.  Make it your goal to speak  
with Him in a personal way each day, and each day to read a small part of the Bible and think/pray about how you can turn your life towards His message.  The relationship with Him is a process, and will grow with time. Just keep 'after' Him, as He has always been after you! (not that He is running away from you now, by any stretch of the imagination!!)

:-) SM