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If a teen who is active in our youth group, 16 years old, becomes pregnant, she she stay in youth or be moved to the adult group? Although she isn't one what age do you feel youth should be promoted to the adult classes or should there be a young adult class?? Please HELP!?
Deanna-
A lot of people would choose throwing her out as an example of poor decisions. I'm not in that group. I think she needs the love of Jesus now more than ever, and the best way to show that is to welcome her into the group.
As a counselor, I would do a lot of talking with her to see if she knows she made a mistake. If she flaunts her pregnancy or says it's no big deal, then I would consider asking her to not promote that agenda. If she refuses, then I might ask her to step away, but it would be an extremely tough decision to do so.
I think she ought to stay, and ought to talk to the group about how she (they) made a bad decision - the guy ought to stand up and take his lumps, too. Sometimes coming from a peer, it carries more weight.
A young adult class is not the answer - she has nothing in common with them, especially if she's still going to high school.
See Juno, an excellent movie about this subject.
hope this helps,
Carl
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| Comment | Thank You SOOO much! We thought we would be doing something good by placing her with the adults. Now with your response it makes more sense to leave her in the youth class. Thanks! This means soo much, God Bless!!! | ||
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Answers by Expert:
Carl Fuglein
Expertise
I can answer questions from teens & young adults concerning their faith walk and on social issues which affect their lives. I can answer questions on sex, homosexuality, and drugs and anything else that might be troubling you. After 30 years in youth ministry, nothing shocks me, and I promise to give straight answers to any and all questions. I can also answer questions from youth workers on problems they`re having with programming or with their groups.
Experience
I have been involved in youth and young adult ministries as a volunteer for over 30 years. I am currently a volunteer youth minister in a suburban UM church - I have a small group of 7th and 8th graders.
Organizations
United Methodist Church, Chrysalis, Walk to Emmaus, Cursillo
Education/Credentials
Several training seminars, 8 years at National Youth Workers Convention, 1 year at Princeton Forum on Youth Ministry
Awards and Honors
Certified lay speaker for UM Church
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