Expert: Carl Fuglein - 1/27/2009

Question
Omg! I'm a 16 yr old female and there's so much stuff goin on in my life
rite now. I feel like the bible doesn't have specific answers to things goin
on in the world today. My family is not close at all! I can't get a permit
because I dnt have the money to get a birth certifiacate, I can't seem to
get a job, I don't have a boyfriend, my grades are slippin because of my
family stress, I'm the oldest child so when my mom goes in to one of her
"episodes" I have 2 take care of them. So I feel like god doesn't hear me
sometimes. I feel like evrythng in my life is meteocre and nothing fun,
exciting or spontaneous happens so I imagine things in my mind and
sometimes masturbate 2 make me feel better...wat shuld I do!! I'm tired
of feeling hopeless and helpless!1!!!!

Answer
Hi Kiyonna,

First of all, know that God DOES love you and is crying right along with you about your stress.  No one deserves to be in your situation.

Know also that your siblings need you and depend on you when your mom is not right, so try to do what you can for them.  Imagine how awful it might be for them - they are likely suffering from the same stress you are.

I think the best thing you can do is to find a youth group or a club at school or somewhere you can go to be safe from your daily life.  It may be hard to do, but I think it is essential that you do it.  Once you find a group, then talk to the adult leader of the group about your stress and see what they can do to help you - it may be the only thing they can do is listen, but it would be good for you to get it off your chest.

If you can't find a group, then talk to a counselor at school.  You really need to talk to someone on a regular basis.

Masturbating is not necessarily a bad thing if it helps to relieve your stress, as long as you are not getting addicted to it.

Hope this helps.  Please take the time to reate my answer.

hugs,
carl