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I'm writing this to ask the question about what to do? I'm a male and have a male best friend we were friends building a relationship, but along the way we became intimate but did not have sex. I'm a Christian but I love this man and he loves me more than we could ever love another person. We decided that we need to stop our intimacy but it's so hard because we both still love each other. How would you suggest for us to keep faithful to our commitment to stop this?

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Caleb-

If you love each other as much as you say, I'm not sure that you can stop your intimacy.  My only suggestion is prayer, and a lot of it.  As a practical suggestion, when you find yourselves in private, remove yourself from that situation.

Sorry I couldn't be of more assistance, but I guess I don't have any other solution.

blessings,
carl  

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Carl Fuglein

Expertise

I can answer questions from teens & young adults concerning their faith walk and on social issues which affect their lives. I can answer questions on sex, homosexuality, and drugs and anything else that might be troubling you. After 30 years in youth ministry, nothing shocks me, and I promise to give straight answers to any and all questions. I can also answer questions from youth workers on problems they`re having with programming or with their groups.

Experience

I have been involved in youth and young adult ministries as a volunteer for over 30 years. I am currently a volunteer youth minister in a suburban UM church - I have a small group of 7th and 8th graders.

Organizations
United Methodist Church, Chrysalis, Walk to Emmaus, Cursillo

Education/Credentials
Several training seminars, 8 years at National Youth Workers Convention, 1 year at Princeton Forum on Youth Ministry

Awards and Honors
Certified lay speaker for UM Church

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